Generally
speaking people don’t take advice, even good advice. This is true even
when the advice is free and when it’s offered with love. Think about
yourself. How often do you really, honestly take someone else’s advice?
How often do you say to yourself, or out loud, “That’s a great idea.
That’s a much better way of doing it than the way I have been doing.”
In order to grow, we need to see things differently. We don’t want to do the same things over and over if they’re not working well. Instead, we want to open our eyes to new and improved ways of doing things. But how can we see things differently if we refuse to take to heart the suggestions from others?
Sometimes, the reason we don’t take advice is pure stubbornness. We want to do things our own way – even if it’s not working! Other times, we avoid advice out of fear. We might be frightened that we’re going to look bad in the eyes of someone else, or that we’re going to seem incompetent. Or we might be fearful that the advice we get isn’t going to help. Sometimes we’ve received bad advice or too much advice, and we vow to not repeat that same mistake.
Life is so much simpler when you involve the strengths and expertise of others. After all, if you absolutely knew what to do to make your life better or more successful, you’d be doing it already. But if you’re struggling in any aspect of your life (and we all do), you need advice. So take the advice.
In order to grow, we need to see things differently. We don’t want to do the same things over and over if they’re not working well. Instead, we want to open our eyes to new and improved ways of doing things. But how can we see things differently if we refuse to take to heart the suggestions from others?
Sometimes, the reason we don’t take advice is pure stubbornness. We want to do things our own way – even if it’s not working! Other times, we avoid advice out of fear. We might be frightened that we’re going to look bad in the eyes of someone else, or that we’re going to seem incompetent. Or we might be fearful that the advice we get isn’t going to help. Sometimes we’ve received bad advice or too much advice, and we vow to not repeat that same mistake.
Life is so much simpler when you involve the strengths and expertise of others. After all, if you absolutely knew what to do to make your life better or more successful, you’d be doing it already. But if you’re struggling in any aspect of your life (and we all do), you need advice. So take the advice.
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Once upon a time, there were three people who went to watch drama together. One of them was far-sighted, another one had a hearing problem, and the other had a twisted head.
After the show, they were judging the drama.
“Today’s show had great singers, but the costume design was poor,” said the person who had farsightedness.
“The costume was perfect, but the sound was too low,” said the person who had hearing problem.
“The sound was loud and the costume was fine. Everything was great, but the performance stage was lopsided,” said the person who had twisted head.
From the story above, most people do not admit their shortcomings. It’s because the person, who had farsightedness, cannot see things in clarity, but complains about the costume; the one, who had hearing problem, cannot hear things clearly, but complains about the music; the one, who doesn’t admit his twisted head, but complains about the performance stage.
According to statistics, the vocabulary most often used in our daily communication is either “I” or “me”. Aren't conflicts among human and disputes among nations, the results of over-emphasizing one's opinion?
Accept sincere advice and the reality of truth given by others. One who is willing to take advice and relinquish one’s ego can work well with others.
After the show, they were judging the drama.
“Today’s show had great singers, but the costume design was poor,” said the person who had farsightedness.
“The costume was perfect, but the sound was too low,” said the person who had hearing problem.
“The sound was loud and the costume was fine. Everything was great, but the performance stage was lopsided,” said the person who had twisted head.
From the story above, most people do not admit their shortcomings. It’s because the person, who had farsightedness, cannot see things in clarity, but complains about the costume; the one, who had hearing problem, cannot hear things clearly, but complains about the music; the one, who doesn’t admit his twisted head, but complains about the performance stage.
According to statistics, the vocabulary most often used in our daily communication is either “I” or “me”. Aren't conflicts among human and disputes among nations, the results of over-emphasizing one's opinion?
Accept sincere advice and the reality of truth given by others. One who is willing to take advice and relinquish one’s ego can work well with others.
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